I may seem obsessed with self care. Self care has give me so many parts of myself, freedom, a newfound level of acceptance for others, empathy, and an endless list of more.
Often it can seem like a frivolous thing. Putting time, energy, and heart into caring for myself. Writing it out it sounds selfish, ridiculous, and really objectionable given how immensely tumultuous, heartbreaking, down right terrifying, and upheaval filled our world is right now. However, because of my daily care practices I have more to give, more to help, and more energy to enact change.
Spending time and energy on self care is like anything; It thrives on momentum. The more you do it, the more you expand that list, and the more you know What Works, the better/more effective/and fulfilling it becomes.
In the month of July I am going to be sharing a self care tip/idea/practice every day. I’ll keep them organized on IG under the hashtag #aselfcarestory This isn’t a ‘challenge’ there is no amount of participation required to be recognized, there is no prize other than the hope that at the end of it you’ll have a more whole picture of what works for you and what doesn’t. What I share will run the gamut, and some will resonate and ‘work’ while some may not.
I wanted to share this list in hopes of inspiring you to participate in whatever way feels like it may fill you up. And, maybe, you’ll experience some of these gifts too.
5 Things my Self Care Practice has Given Me
- Body Autonomy. Spending time, energy, and investing thought into my body has brought me back into myself after 8 years of breastfeeding, pregnancy, and giving my body so wholly to others. After a solid year of thinking “does this actually feel good.” about. . . so many things (self care, exercise, sex, feelings, etc.) I am really cultivating autonomy to know what I need, how to have agency over my own body, and what that really looks like.
- Language about my body. We all know that “I feel” statements are important, and more effective in a disagreement than accusations. Through self care I’ve gained new language, new understanding of emotions, and moments to really think about my feelings and my physical body with intention. Through that I’ve gained language to understand what my body is experiencing. Instead of feeling “unfulfilled” I realize I am actually just aching for adventure! These new understandings and language sets me up for success in meeting my needs.
- Grace for others. Empathy. It’s a strange and amazing side effect. When your cup is full (or, honestly, just a little bit filled up), it’s far easier to parent, partner, interact with all the frustrated people at the grocery store/gas station/interstate/DMV/you get it.
- More Time. As self care has become a daily practice I am spinning my wheels less. Less time spent mindlessly scrolling, less time spent frantically cleaning one spot/another/back to another/all day long. Less time obsessing about clothes, my body, or the space it takes up.
- A stellar arsenal of care that WORKS for me. I’ve tried so many forms of self care, so many iterations of it. That I have a solid, and growing, list of what I know helps me come back into myself and feel calm. That’s exactly what I’m hoping to help friends cultivate in July. A list that can cover at home, on vacation, at work, or with a baby on your hip. Ideas that can be a weekend away, free, or easily mixed up with pantry items. I have this list at my finger tips it makes it easier for me to choose something I can do, right then, regardless of if I have a weekend to myself (LOL right?) or just one full minute with a baby in my arms.
If you want to join in I’ll be posting on IG daily for it (unless we will be out of town and then I may do a few posts on one day! Flexibility ya’ll)!
use #selfcarestory to share and I’ll likely share some of those (only public) posts too since I’m sure we all have lots to grow and learn from each other!