If you’re continuing on with this self care reset I wanted to give you a little extra advice! For each prompt set aside about 10min of journalling/thinking time, and about 5min to revisit the day’s before. Keeping those ideas, your words and discoveries, and that momentum at the forefront will help you to keep making small shifts into more care through the whole month, and year, long.
Cultivating routines can be a great way to begin to add in small forms of self care that carry throughout the week, so you are never spending a full day without turning some attention towards your needs. The best way I have found to begin to create a morning routine is by writing down what your ideal morning routine would be, and then pull from it the three attainable components (maybe it’s a big glass of water, a stretch before you leave your bedroom, and flossing. Or? Maybe it’s a workout, hot coffee, and a text to your best friend.) Attainiable will look different for everyone.
From here, try to DO one of those three things today, tomorrow, and the next day. If you can, add in the second thing. See how this impacts your morning, your time, and how you frame those things (for example, I slowed down and added tongue scraping and flossing to my brushing routine, and I see if as self care, as opposed to a “must do” and it’s filling me up differently than when it’s a MUST).
Just like we worked on the AM routine yesterday, lets do the same for a night time routine. Often we have more time to be leisurely in the evening and that means for some, PM can work for more solid care.
Create the dream evening routine list, pull three things, and then add in one for tonight, one more tomorrow tomorrow, and the next day. Slowly add to this when you can, keeping that dream list close at hand for any evening you have extra energy, space, or time.
If at the end of the night you’re feeling wholsale exhausted, instead of a big routine just make the routine something so achievable. For example; Turn off my phone at 9, wear cozy socks, and brush my teeth. That way I’m not let down when I don’t do the other x,y,z things, but I have a soild routine for my heart and body to really lean into.
Also, this is a good time to remind you that it’s NOT WRONG to be a nighttime person. There is a lot of weird shame out there over not being an early bird. But I vote drop that, and embrace the rhythms that work for you and your heart (if at all possible with your work/family schedule) and maybe that means that creating an evening routine is FAR more important than an AM one, know that and prioritize your energy to reflect it
One form of self-care that I think get’s deeply under-valued is the care you can feel and recieve from spending quality time together with your family. This may be you and a pet, you and your partner, you and your children, you and a friend/chosen family, any configuration. Prioritize some space; away from your phone or work, with someone(s) who are important to you. Lists help me, and here is a list of things our little family loves to do together, that can help me feel my cup being filled, because when I feel like an intentional mama (or; partner, friend, daughter, ect) my heart grows a solid size.
Playing a game together
Taking the dog on a walk
Trying out a new restaurant
Reading out loud to them
Listening to a funny podcast together in the car Watching an old movie
Sleep. Making more/better/quality sleep a priority over the past few months has been hard and rewarding. More sleep benefits our brains, bodies, and hearts. And? It’s often hard to come by. For journalling: What keeps you from sleep? Are there reoccurring thoughts that stop you from slowing down (“don’t be lazy”, “you can get one more thing done”, ect.ect.)? Or is there a thought loop you fall into once you’re into bed? Give yourself a few moments to journal about your knee-jerk feelings about sleep, and write down how you feel about your current sleep schdule and if you feel it’s enough. If you don’t feel that you’re getting enough sleep (most of us aren’t!) what can you shift, let go of, rearrange, or change to create more space.
If you have small children and creating more space for sleep is. . . laughable. Take heart! There are still things you can do to help yourself feel more restful in your day to day. For example; Knowing what/how makes your baby nap (even if it’s something you wish it wasn’t, like driving around) and allowing yoruself to just get the baby to sleep. Path of least resistance. And then? Forget the to-do list, and rest. That may mean sleeping, or it may mean a snuggly (TV/book) moment with another kid (or 3). Regardless, give yourself permission to sleep, just because. That’s relevent advice for EVERYONE.
More sleep can be portrayed as ‘lazy’ and sleeping in or napping is often demonized because it’s the media anthisis of “hustle”. There is where you cast all that OFF. And remind yourself how massively health and brain benefitical sleep is. And allow yorslef to move that to the top of the list. Here are a few things I did to work on my sleep schdule.
Limit my caffine intake
Add in meditation on hectic feeling days
Set phone alarms to turn off the phone, unplug
Create an evening routine to help my body know it’s time to calm
Stop guilting myself for sleeping in or napping
Napping anytime I want to and have the space to (two very different things!)